This is the #SLAA Online Group website.
This is not the official SLAA website.
Welcome to the
#SLAA Online Group
of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
on StarLink-IRC.Org IRC
Behavior & Problems (Revised 7/17/11):
section refers to our “behavior guidelines” and any problems with
behavior. If you are having technical problems connecting, please use the
“Connecting To Chat” link for more information.
guidelines are just that — a list of suggested guidelines compiled over
our room’s many years of existence to maintain the safety of all members.
Please review this section, as well as the section called “Guidelines,”
for a full understanding of our room’s policies and procedures. The
channels’ “owners” (the current Chairperson and Co-Chairperson)
along with the other officers and/or operators (OP’s) collectively have
complete discretion in specific cases — especially where and when any discipline
is involved. However the channel must have consistency to be considered
fair in dealing with everyone. It will be rare when exceptions are made.
We always welcome suggestions. Please send them to any OP (operator) or
Members (or anyone) seeking to avoid a ban that is established in
our room. This page is a proactive attempt to inform participants
about the few following courtesy rules — “behavior guidelines”
— that have been long established by our group conscience.
In the rare instance of a [channel] ban (second offense), trying to
circumvent this becomes a matter that StarLink-IRC.Org will assist with.
The likely result is a ban from connecting to them entirely (called
a g-line or k-line).
Members providing or supporting Warez (stolen software) distribution
Members advertising/spamming any goods and/or services that involve
Members soliciting, supporting or conducting sexual activities.
Members advocating abuse of human rights, including cruelty, intolerance,
child pornography, or similar subjects.
Cloning or flooding for the purposes of disrupting the network or
Members seeking to actively suggest members to join “other”
IRC servers than StarLink-IRC.Org.
Members abusing private messages (PM), query, DCC-chat, or any DCC
or CTCP function to systematically or repeatedly harass other members.
Members engaging in flirting, racy talk, or attempting inappropriate
sexual/social behaviors. “No” means “NO.”
Members consistently “cross-talking” during other member’s
sharing in the main room.
Member’s repeated use of toxic or triggering comments in a share
if warned by others (anyone) that they are being inappropriate.
Bear in mind that we all have different issues and levels of sobriety,
recovery, and tolerance. If a person asks that you tone it down,
please be respectful.
Member’s repeated use of offensive language in a share if warned
by other’s that they are being offensive. (See note above.)
As a fellowship, S.L.A.A. has no opinion on outside issues, and seeks
no controversy. S.L.A.A. is not affiliated with any other organizations,
movements or causes, either religious or secular. Members need
to respect the religion(s) (or lack of religion), patriotism (or lack
of patriotism), or opinions of all other members.
Remaining in a room while not at your computer for long periods can under certain circumstances be considered an invasion of privacy. If an operator considers this a problem you will be kicked. If your computer is on auto-reconnect, you will be kicked and banned when your computer reconnects to the room. The ban will be lifted after five minutes, thus hoping to disable the auto-reconnect feature. It would typically occur if a member has been idle (away from keyboard) for more than 30 minutes if a meeting is about to start or between meetings if a member is sharing a very personal story, and 60 minutes in between meetings, so as to protect privacy in the room. OPs should query prior to kicking. Repeated long idle instances need not be queried prior to kicking. (Please note the reason for this policy is that an unmonitored computer can be viewed by anyone passing by, and therefore this policy will better ensure member privacy.) (9/15/03),(3/1/11), & (12/10/13).
Members engaging in rumors about other members (whether from our room
or other recovery rooms).
Members harassing other members in any way or directly expressing
anger toward other members.
Members identifying themselves as a sex and/or love addict and/or
avoidant, but are actually NOT a “qualified member” (or
considering if they might be one) — in other words, being in the
room without consideration that they, themself, might be a member desiring
recovery or contemplating it.
Non-members entering the room under the “assumed” nickname
of their spouse or signficant-other or another member to obtain “inside”
information about their spouse or significant-other or other members.
Posting Weblinks unrelated to the Twelve Steps of Recovery, or which
are political or religious in nature or otherwise considered controversial.
Links which are posted must be clear that they are not affiliated with
our group or SLAA as a whole if it is not from our website or from slaafws.org
Members having more than one nick name, (except for afk, or in the
case of disconnect/reconnect) or Members using someone elses nickname
in the room (12/6/11).
Does this apply to the #SLAA
room between meetings?
Our group conscience suggests that the #SLAA
room be considered as a 24/7 informal chat meeting. While the regularly
scheduled meetings take precedence over the informal chats, the room always falls
under the Traditions and is therefore treated as a “meeting in progress”
at all times.
How do we know if people in the #SLAA room are engaged
in any inappropriate behavior?
This remains a difficult issue to
resolve. We never automatically “log” any conversations and
cannot “see” private messages between members. Therefore, we
can only respond when you make a direct complaint by following the procedures
listed in the “How do I report a problem?” section below.
a problem arises in the #SLAA Online Group meeting room when you see an trusted
servant (operator) present, please make them aware of the problem immediately.
we do not allow “logging” of meetings, we encourage you to log any
troublesome conversations with other member(s) — whether in the main room
or in private messages — for the review of our room’s trusted servants.
is being a problem for me.  What should I do?
first step is to be clear with the other party about boundaries. If that
isn't sufficient, please seek out one or more of the Trusted Servants in the chat
room (the one's with the “@” by their nickname). If none are
there — or you prefer — please forward any logs and details
to the Trusted Servants at our regular email@example.com
address. You can also type: /ignore nick in mIRC and this will silence whomever
you do not wish to see, whether in private chat or in the main channel.
inappropriate behavior is reported, what action will occur?
Offender breaching the behavior guidelines need to be directly confronted in pm
by and op or officer and issued a warning ( logging is allowed in this situation)
If the offender continues, de-voice them for a period of time up to a period of
10 minutes maximum, and post a written verbal warning in the main room
If the behavior continues kick them from the room with another written verbal
warning in the main room
If the offender continues to breach the behavior guidelines after all the above
actions have been taken, they are to be asked to come over to slaa2 with a minimum
of two other ops or officers and confronted. They need to be told they had been
warned and are now going to get a one day ban, and then issue a one day ban. A
one day ban may be issued twice, and then a one week ban is put in place. After
a one week ban a one month ban may be issued if needed. Two officers must be present
in slaa2 upon the issue of a one week ban or more. Make sure to always report
any ban in an email to slaaonline@yahoo and send any logs as well.
When a persons ban is expired an email needs to be sent to all ops informing them
that the ban on the individual is up. This will prevent any conflicts or misunderstandings
in the room.
F) If a person
is found to be evading a ban, then and only then should channels become involved,
as noted below
an Operator should go to Channels:
a person is found or suspected to be evading a ban or a G -line set by Channels
an Op is having trouble with technical issues
anything having to do with C-Star commands, such as fixing someones mask, etc.
following guidelines belong to that of our Server: "Starlink" who are
the owners of our Chat Room. We "rent" our chat room from them so to
speak. Upon violation of the following of their rules, (see below) they may "Gline"
a member (a ban placed by them which is usually permanent). Please be cognizant
at all times that not only does SLAA have guidelines, but Starlink has guidelines
that must be followed as well.
founding members of StarLink-IRC, after due deliberation, adopted the following
principles (From - http://www.starlink-irc.org/sldocs/slchartr.html):
The inherent and self-evident rights, authorities and responsibilities of Host
Services, Channel Services, and Users shall not be abridged. * StarLink-IRC
exists for the sole purpose of providing its users with a safe, reliable, and
secure place to chat. * All Users shall, wherever possible, be provided timely
assistance, support, and a voice in network. * Deliberate abuse or harassment
of persons or groups will not be tolerated
Abuse of authority is absolutely prohibited and will be dealt with swiftly and
severely. - StarLink-IRC Operations shall deal immediately with any reports
of abuse by members of StarLink-IRC organizations. - Within a Channel, the
Channel Manager defines allowable behavior and may deal with violators as they
balances the inherent rights of free speech and the rights of users. Although
supportive of alternative viewpoints and lifestyles, StarLink-IRC will NOT support
advocacy of intolerance or abuse of the rights or property of others. The following
Special Restrictions apply:
Activities: @ Channels and users providing or supporting
Warez (stolen software) distribution or acquisition. @
Openly pornographic channels soliciting, supporting or conducting on-channel sexual
activities. @ Channels and/or users advocating abuse
of human rights, including cruelty, intolerance, child pornography, or similar
subjects. @ Cloning or flooding for the purposes of
disrupting the network or its users. @ Repeated abuse
of privmsg or DCC chat to systematically or repeatedly harass users.
Violators will be permanently and immediately removed from StarLink-IRC,
possibly without warning or appeal. Relevant records of prohibited activities
or advocacy may be provided to appropriate authorities for further action.